You Know a Man
Who Needs This.
He is standing still right now. He can see something ahead — light, maybe, through the storm — but he hasn't moved yet. You are the person who can tell him where to go.
He is standing still right now. He can see something ahead — light, maybe, through the storm — but he hasn't moved yet. You are the person who can tell him where to go.
You are sitting across from him in your office. Or you see him in the third row, present in body but somewhere else entirely. He is going through divorce — or he went through it years ago and never really processed it.
You have prayed with him. You have counseled him. You have referred him to professionals. And yet there is something he still needs that a weekly session cannot provide: three days, 88 acres, five stations, and a room full of men who have been exactly where he is.
That is what Stonebreaker offers. Not as a replacement for what you do — as the thing that makes what you do go deeper.
The man who is still showing up to church but his eyes are somewhere else. His marriage is ending and he doesn't know who he is without it.
The man who finalized two years ago and everyone thinks he's fine. He's not fine. He just got good at looking like it.
The father who is terrified about what the divorce is doing to his children and has no idea how to be a dad from a different address.
The man in prolonged legal limbo — spouse unresponsive, process stalled, living in uncertainty with no end date. He needs a community that understands waiting.
The man who has stopped asking for help because asking for help stopped working. He needs to be in a room where that is not weakness — it is the entrance requirement.
A pastor or counselor who walks alongside divorcing men is doing one of the hardest forms of ministry there is. The emotional weight is enormous. The cases are complex. The legal dimensions are outside your lane. The children are affected. The extended families are involved.
Stonebreaker is not asking you to refer a man and step away. We are asking you to refer a man and let us carry part of the weight with you. The Foundation Weekend and twelve-month Brotherhood Cohort are designed to work alongside what you are already doing — not to replace your relationship with him.
When he comes back from a Foundation Weekend, he will be easier to work with. Not because his problems are solved — because he has started to move again.
"The man who stands still in front of the light isn't stubborn. He's frozen. Stonebreaker is designed to unfreeze him — so when he walks back into your office, he's finally ready to do the work."
The Foundation Weekend pulls a man completely out of his daily environment — his apartment, his custody schedule, his inbox, his grief — and puts him somewhere that has no agenda except his restoration. That physical separation is irreplaceable.
No man going through divorce believes anyone understands what he is experiencing. At Stonebreaker, every man in the room is in the middle of it or on the other side. That shared reality breaks through isolation faster than any individual session can.
The Foundation Weekend is the entry point into a twelve-month Brotherhood Cohort. The man you refer doesn't get a weekend and a handshake. He gets an ongoing community, monthly touchpoints, and a structured restoration arc that runs alongside your ongoing work with him.
Before you refer a man, you need to know exactly what you are referring him to. Here is what Stonebreaker is not, so there are no surprises on either end.
We do not provide licensed therapy and we do not position ourselves as a counseling program. We refer men to clinical professionals when clinical care is indicated. We work alongside your practice, not instead of it.
Stonebreaker is built for men in the middle of the fire. Men who are raw, angry, numb, or still in denial are exactly the right candidates. Men who are fully healed and stable are not the target — they may be better suited as future facilitators.
Stonebreaker is interdenominational and Christ-centered. Any man who believes in Jesus Christ and is willing to engage honestly is welcome, regardless of his church background or denomination.
The Foundation Weekend and Brotherhood Cohort are fully donor-funded. A man in the middle of divorce has enough financial pressure. We will never add to it. Refer him freely.
The man you refer may come back to you changed. Not fixed — changed. There is a difference. Fixed implies the problem is gone. Changed means he has started moving toward it instead of away from it.
"Men were not built to do this alone. Your referral is the moment that changes that for someone."— Stonebreaker Ministries • Brotherhood Cohort Model
We keep the referral process straightforward. Your role is to make the introduction. Our role is to handle everything from there with discretion, care, and no pressure on the man you refer.
Tell us about the man you have in mind — where he is in the process, what you've observed, and how best to reach him. This information is confidential and goes directly to Dan Phillips.
Tell us how you'd like us to approach him — whether you want to introduce us directly, have us reach out independently, or simply give him our information to contact us himself. We follow your lead.
With the man's permission, we can keep you updated on his participation. You remain part of his support system — we are simply adding a lane to the road he's already on.
Pastors and counselors who refer regularly become Stonebreaker partners. We want to know your congregation, your practice, and your community — so we can serve the men you send well.
This goes directly to Dan Phillips. Everything you share is treated with complete confidentiality.
Dan Phillips responds personally within 48 hours. Everything shared here is confidential.
"The righteous care about justice for the poor, but the wicked have no such concern."
You are reading this page because you care about a man who is losing ground. That care is the referral. The form is just the next step.